Showing posts with label Single Minded Women. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Single Minded Women. Show all posts

May 20, 2012

You are mine...


You’re one of the best friends I’ve ever had. 
I know sometimes you can really irritate me, but we both know I can just be a bitch.
I really appreciate you as a person and I love talking to you, 
we have amazing conversations and 
I like that we can argue and not get mad at each other.
I feel like we connect and have an unspoken understanding of each other, so thank you for that.
Miss you so much Cungkring... 

Apr 3, 2011

Masa lalu & kesempatan kedua



Ketika cinta menyapa, terkadang kita ga peduli dengan masa lalu seseorang, ga peduli seberapa terpuruknya dia dulu yang ada di benak kita cuma seperti apa dia sekarang dan apa yang akan di lakukan buat masa depannya... naif banget klo kita bisa menerima & mencintai orang yang punya kekurangan dan kesalahan di masa lalunya, tapi sekali lagi klo cinta sudah menyapa tai kucing rasa coklat kan....???saya suka dengan lagu-lagu dari dr_Tompi, kan lirik lagu ini  pass banget (sayang blm ada klip nya)


Tompi - Biar Saja Lyrics
aku sudah tak peduli masa lalumu
yang ku tahu hanya aku jatuh cinta padamu
biar saja orang berkata semaunya (mau bilang apa)
yang penting aku takkan berubah padamu
ku tlah memutuskan untuk
menerima apapun kurangmu
mari kita jalani saja
kisah cinta ini kita yang punya

reff:
ini hatiku, ini cintaku, semua untukmu
ini hatiku, ini cintaku, semua untukmu
meski matahari tak lagi bersinar
meski rembulan pun tak lagi terang
meski tak ada lagi lagu yang indah
hatiku tetap aku sayang padamu
biar saja orang berkata sesukanya
(suka-suka mau bilang apa)
apapun itu tak mampu mengubah cintaku
ku tlah memutuskan untuk
menerima apapun kurangmu
mari kita jalani saja
kisah cinta ini kita yang punya (kita yang punya)

repeat reff
(aku sayang padamu) aku sayang padamu
(aku sayang padamu) aku sayang padamu
(aku sayang padamu)
meski tak ada lagi lagu yang indah
meski rembulan pun tak lagi terang
meski matahari tak lagi bersinar
hatiku tetap aku sayang padamu

Hakikatnya cinta adalah memberi, mendengar, dan melihat... jadi menurut saya sah sah ajah kita mencintai seseorang lengkap dengan paketnya alias masa lalunya, tapi apa iya kita mau mengorbankan masa depan & hidup kita untuk orang yang belum tentu menjadi pasangan kita kelak.Kadang jadi bingung, di satu sisi kita mulai2 sayang tapi satu sisi kadang ketakutan muncul one day dia balik ke habit nya yang dulu...
Beberapa orang sahabat mengatakan saya mengambil resiko yang besar dengan menerima dia (pluss masa lalunya & keadaannya) tapi menurut saya, setiap manusia harus diberikan kesempatan kedua kan? kesempatan untuk berubah? nah.... lalu kenapa saya tidak memberikan kesempatan itu ?? Tuhan aja selalu memberikan kita kesempatan kedua.
We'll see, can I accept his past and his condition now... 
biarkan waktu yang kan menjawab & biarkan tangan Tuhan bekerja pada hubungan ini,
lagi pula ..
.
Life is too short to stress yourself with people who don't even deserve to be an issue in your life, right...???

Mar 27, 2011

Better Single Than Sorry ...

There is something about the number 30 that strikes fear into any woman hoping to get married and have children. I think It's dangerous to put a specific age or period of time dating on when you "should get married". Doing so only leads you to follow some imaginary deadline which leads to trouble. Too early and you might pass up on the perfect love, or force yourself to marry someone who isn't right to meet that deadline, or start feeling bad and knocking yourself because you are "already 30 and unmarried!" or some other crap like that.
Now I am 28 years old, and I don’t even think of getting married. Is that an embarrassing thing when you're still single while all of your friends already married & have a kid?? Gee.... people need to have freedom to grow.
There is no age that dictates when someone is ready for marriage or kids. Some people find that they are simply happier without marriage or kids. I remember when I passed the age when my parents got married, I defiantly had a feeling of "I should find someone to marry".
Well it happened when I was 25, suddenly I thought about my age & my future, I kept thinking about getting married all the time. In my social life 25 is a prefect age for a women to get married. I’ve been dating several men, but seems none of them impressed me well.So now I’m still single…
I have dreamed about what my wedding will be like since I knew what weddings were, the dress, the rings, the flowers, the party, the presents. Basically yes I know marriage is all sweet and blablabla… 
but the thing is marriage is not only about that right? Marriage is not for trial and error, it is just as important as any major surgery.
There are so many plans that I should prepare likes myself mentally, financially, physical, spirituality, etc & right now I'm not ready to totally commit to one person. Being able to commit to someone is a beautiful thing, but being able and ready is different than doing right...???
I want to have more than enough time after graduating to settle in my career, have a stable job, so able to save, instead of spend, spend, spend. Whether for a home, a vehicle, investments, travel, whatever plans I have for my future.
I believe that it'll be an age where I'm ready, able and willing to get married and bring my children into this world, having the energy and wisdom to educate as well as raise them, after 30 hahahahaa.... LOL
so If you're not ready to get married, don't do it. Ignore the pressure
s around you and just live your life the way you want to. Don’t be afraid of your ticking clock, stop worrying. Have fun. Get passionate about something and HE will find you. And then you'll thank God you waited.

Mar 25, 2011

Lady in Waiting ....

I saw Ugly Betty session 4, episode 19: The Past Presents and the future. Each minute of the 19th episode I just laughing, smiling, holding my breath and suddenly the tears come. It was the sweetest episode for me. It was Hilda’s wedding. On the day of the wedding, Justin brings Austin and Ignacio brings Elena. Daniel arrives dateless and He sees Betty come out from the car then he tells Betty that she looks great. There are sparkles in Daniel’s eye when he saw Betty. During the wedding there are a lot of loves and my heart just melted when Daniel gazes at Betty, indicating that he has realized he's in love with her when Hilda was giving her speech. On her speech Hilda talks about knowing someone better than they do and that you would do anything to protect them and how that's when you know that you are in love. The only disappointment would be why it took him (Daniel) so long to figure it out.
Well it happens in our life, sometimes it took so long for us to figure it out: “the one”. We still believe in love at the first sight, but we never realize that someone close to you might be your mate. Of course you are going to fall in love one day and it will lead to a committed, long term relationship. But 'first sight'? How many times will you fall in love before the ' right one' comes along ?
The older I get the more I believe that love at the first sight is just a myth, cause I think true love is a combo of respect, understanding and connection - and those, in my humble opinion can only be discovered when you get to know someone. Perhaps I believe in attraction at first sigh, love can not be accomplished so quickly.
I thought how wonderful my life could be if I could share it with a loving, trustful and supportive. I dreamed to find a real partner, someone that I can share my happiest and saddest moments with. Someone, who's never get tired of hearing how my day went by, a partner that is here to listen, to share, and to offer a comfort and supportive shoulder.
And sometimes, I found myself asking: "Why haven't I found him yet? What can I do to attract and get the man that I want? What different am I from the millions of happy woman enjoying good relationships with their partners?" I’m not that different from those women. I’m not less intelligent, less beautiful than most happy women.
I kept thinking perhaps I haven't been able to got the right man of my dreams because I’m not good enough, or because I have probably been making several mistakes in the way I choose, approach, behave and communicate with men?
or maybe I should just stay single for the rest of my life. Dating, marriage and kids are not in the deck of cards God has planned for me.
What if all I planned in my mind ares totally opposite of what God has in mind? What if while I’m looking for greatness I let greatness passed me by, as a matter of fact when my MR. RIGHT walks into my life, I probably won’t even recognize him.
I do believe God's way is best, His design is perfect, God has one person for you to spend forever with. Truth is, I am not sure what my Mr. Right will be like. I have an idea, but I keep thinking that as good as my idea may sound, God’s plan is a whole lot better. God is still God and always will be. His timing is perfect, not yours or mine, and when it's time, you will be with “the one” God designed for you.